Since this is my first post, I wanted to start it off with a topic that I see time and time again. My brief opinion is a start and I hope a dialogue will continue to build on other topics that women need to have addressed.
How many times have you had a friend that dated a guy who you personally questioned, “why is she with him?” Or how many times have you asked yourself the question, “why am I with him?” Too many of us are so afraid of being alone that we find ourselves dealing with whatever card we’re dealt and look like fools for the sake of having, keeping, or getting a man.
My upstairs neighbor just can’t seem to get it right. Since I have lived beneathe her (less than a year), she’s had two men yell at her and then she screams, “please don’t go”. What the hell is that about? I mean, why is it necessary to run up behind a man and beg him to not leave? We need to stop giving in, giving up and giving away the energy it takes to make an unhealthy realtionship work. When we settle for less we are telling ourselves we aren’t worth having anything better than what we have.
What’s your thought?
Sunny said,
May 29, 2008 at 3:48 pm
After kissing many frogs and still not finding a prince. standards can begin to lower. Loneliness kicks in, and you think you may never find your IBM (Ideal Black Man). So you see “potenitial” in a man and decide I am going to work with him but all along knowing that the situation doesnt feel right. Ladies, if you ever have to ask, “why am I with him?” that brother is not for you. God will leave no question in your mind or heart when you have found the right person. Dont ever settle. Patience is hard, but a must!